Most of the time...this lady ended up keeping everything by herself..." maybe I said the best...when i say nothing at all!" ..keeping everything without a word. Can u imagine that? she has been keeping those little pieces of un-spelled dynamites bit by bit deep inside her heart...becoming a huge mountain of timer bomb waiting to explode...but life has to go on no matter what.
Welcome to the story on -what about those people called "mu'alaf"? they started "as new born" life as mu'alaf even though they'd been living half of their age as non-muslim..at the moment they converts to Muslim..they are assumed as "newborn" in Islam. Living this what so called as "new life" for them...ITS NOT THAT EASY! no joke..NOT EASY!
As they really become a new born "tend to confuse" baby. Why? Imagine that you've been living maybe half (or more) of your age in this Lifestyle A...and now you have to change everything into Lifestyle B-Z . Who did really care about them? In religious part of it...maybe they can always turn to any Jab Agama for an advice and guidance...but how about Emotionally? Moral support, Financially (some)...and a lot more. and 1 thing is that eventhough they can go to jab Agama for an advice, most of them wouldnt have the gut to tell EVERYTHING (the prob they r facing) to the jabtn people.
Actually, its not that they purposely ask for attention...but they just need one regardless to their age. They really need one. As they start they new life, they will need some1 that really care? To guide them, to tell them to keep going, to give them courage, to support them emotionally and morally, and TO LOVE them in many ways...coz most of the time and cases LOVE can make the biggest impact...RACUN DAN PENAWAR!
well then....when some mu'alaf turn back to their previous religion or to their family coz of 1001 reason...they will ended up being blamed as " full of sin MURTAD "...then only people all around start questioning and blaming....but before this kind of thing happen...did any1 really really care? WHY and WHY.... Well...Those who simply converted "with agenda" will simply take it for granted... maybe they will just 'come and go" as they wish...so maybe nothing much others can help....To the mu'alaf themselve-1st of all of course..depends their (mu'alaf) heart , sincerity and determination. How sincere he/she is? ..and pity to those who are really really sincere but then neglected in many ways.... and most of them just not STRONG ENOUGH to move on...
Cases like...being betrayed by their muslim born spouse.....tak kira lah sama ada mualaf tersebut memeluk agama Islam atas keinginan sendiri ataupun atas sebab2 berkhawin....namun peranan si suami / isteri adalah AMAT2 PENTING...bayangkan apabila mu'alaf tersebut telah memartabatkan suami atau isterinya sebagai CONTOH PENGANUT ISLAM YG TERDEKAT untuk dicontohinya, satu2nya tempat dia mengadu nasib....then tup tup....spouse nyer pulak menipu atau berlaku curang terhadapnya. ...OH MY GOD!....dalam byk2 cabaran...inilah tamparan yang paling hebat bagi seseorang mu'alaf.... ramai yg akan hilang pegangan dan berpaling tadah @MURTAD kerana terseksa dengan perangai spouse sendiri. Hanya sedikit yang bertahan.
And then what about those cases where their spouse never give a proper Religious guidance ...the spouse not even performing their prayer....membiarkan mu'alaf tersebut terkial2 mencari arah sendiri, terkial2 mencari ilmu Islam sendirian....u know what....this is really killing...ramai mana yg betul2 bertahan? some mualaf tu bertahan hanya kerana anak2...menerus kan hidup dengan sisa2 hati yang dah hancur...and some ended up dengan dendam....the worst thing is that-some mualaf wont even think of anyone else, they will just turn around and go back to their previous life or religion...or to their parents or family ( apatah lagi jika selama dia jadi mu'alaf, parents or family dia (yg non-muslim) pulak yang sentiasa berada di sisi dia dan dekat di hati dia, comforting her/him. Cases like this-we cannot blame the mu'alaf's family at all. as they appear as wonderful people...They've being very nice..very good human being, being so loving as family ....believing in God(eventhough they are quoted as "non-muslim)...and what more if this family are well mannered and behaving much more better than those NATURE BORN MUSLIM.
It would be a big relief if the mualaf get this very welcoming and supportive family-in-law. their warm welcome can make a very huge difference...spiritual support to the new comer.
But how pity..when some mu'alaf happen to get this 'one kind' mannered in-laws family. Giving more complaints than guidance.. some even dare to humiliate the new comer..labeling the new comer as ' keturunan kafir'...ooohhhh how hurting is that!!!! the mu'alaf will definately CRASHED!! ...then most cases, the family-in-law are expecting too much extreme changes from the new comer!..where by, those new comer definately need some time to adapt and learn so many new things in this brand life. what more if that the mualaf came from a totally in different race and cultures background from their spouse family.
So..dear outsider...never jump into bad conclusion if u meet/see those new comer (mu'alaf)appear to be standing not as high as the level that you simply expect them to be. Go close to them and get to know them better...then only u know everything that you see,happen for some reason.
To be continued.....
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